It was twelve years ago today that I lost my mother and I miss her still. The early pain of grief has been replaced with sweeter memories of her, still I think of her everyday. When the grief was new all I could think of were her last days and how she suffered, over time that has changed to remembering silly times, her kindness, things she taught me. For those of you still blessed to have Mom in your life, cherish each moment you can, glean all the wisdom she has to share and spend time laughing! If you have recently lost someone, remember that pain and sadness you feel now will change over time to something more bearable, although you will always carry that person in your heart. Don't ever let someone tell you when to stop grieving or to get on with it...only you know what's in your heart. For all you mothers out there, remember to relish each day with your children, don't get so busy with housework and your jobs that you put off enjoying today.
I am sorry about your loss, but I truly understand. I lost my mother when she was only 56 years old. I have been without her a very long time. As you said, time is on or side. Take care. I am glad you shared this with us and left me a comment.
ReplyDeleteThe change that you speak of is so very true. And, the gifts of love shared between two hearts. Death just changes the love, it never can diminish it. Here's to remembering your very loved mother...
ReplyDeleteI am sorry you no longer have your MOM here on earth--I lost my Mom in 1995--so I too know what you write of--the one regret I have is not asking her more about herself and her early years--yet, she was not a talker or story teller of those times--but we did have some good craft times together and anything to do with food and she was ready to go--she also suffered in the end--so!!!
ReplyDeleteTake care--hugs, just, Di
Sending love and light to you and your Mum, only gone from the earth, not from your heart... today in Australia. Much love, God bless, Sarah Lulu
ReplyDeleteAs someone who lost there Mom at a young age I can relate to what you are feeling. One of the biggest regrets I have about my Mom is that I didn't let her know how much I loved her...we were not a touchy feely family... and that I didn't ask questions about her life and feelings while I had the chance.
ReplyDeleteI lost my Mom 2 years ago and I completely understand. You are right, the memories just keep coming and unexpectedly . Silly, sad, funny, wonderful memories. Hold on to them and she will always be with you.
ReplyDeleteGod Bless You
Patti
I'm so sorry that you are hurting. Your mother must have been a wonderful person. I do agree that we need to stop and really appreciate each other every day! I'll pray for you.
ReplyDeleteHugs, Sharon
Your absolutely right. It has been four sorrowful years for me. Hard, always, but peace does come. Loneliness, always, but as you said you move beyond the last days to the wonderful moments and memories over saddness. You've such a wonderful blog, thank you for always expressing whats in your heart. Lori.
ReplyDeleteOn Aug 31st it will be 14 years that I have been without my Mom. I miss her every day. I find myself in the grocery store, or other places, observing daughters of my age with their Mother's. Yesterday, There was a daughter being so rude and I thought it was terrible. The cashier (after the rude daughter left) said exactly what I was thinking!!!
ReplyDeleteAmy
I lost my mother about the same time you lost yours...and I will always grieve for her.
ReplyDeleteMy precious husbands too. I miss them every day. Patrick..is in my thoughts much of every day...and I think of Frank often and how he enriched my life so much in such a short time we had together.
I understand what you are saying. After Patrick died my children finally TOOK me to a "Grief Closure" siminar nearby..and I didn't do well. Perhaps too soon. I tried once again a few months later..and this time I made it. I went through twice. One of the things I learned was exactly what you stated. Shortly after I lost my husband, I lost my mother.
I am not over any of it...and I know I will never be, but like you say..your mind and body helps you cope by remembering the wonderful things about them. I will always hurt, but I can stand it now. Life is like that. You can bear the things you think you cannot.
Another wonderful post! Thank you.